In one sentence it can be summerised as: “Whether you think you can or can’t – you are right”.
We have determined that events are neutral and it is our response to events that determines the outcome. Our first response to any event is an emotional one.
Our emotions drives our thoughts and our thoughts drives our actions. Our emotional responses are determined by deep-seated beliefs that are in their turn determined by our values and the rules we make for our values.
These values were created by the influences of education (for instance the media), our environment (our parents, socio-economic circumstances etc.), past outcomes (when I tried doing this before ,it did not work out for me etc.), our own creative thoughts (I am only wise and witty when I use recreational drugs etc.) and previous experiences (When I did this, this and that happened etc.).
The answer thus is to move away from the values and the rules we make for those values that are not helping us to be confident in ourselves and to replace them with core values that will help us create the identity of the person we want to be.
In this process we must make sure that we really look for our own authentic values and don’t look at others and compare ourselves to them, since we all are unique and thus have fingerprint unique values that helps us to live our utmost potential and best life.
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